The Trayvon and Zimmerman Show Season Finale

B-Trayvon_Martin_George_ZimmermanIf you didn’t see it live there’s no doubt that you’ve still heard about the Trayvon and Zimmerman Show Season Finale! I mean the shock of the final outcome threw everyone for a loop! Not many saw that twist coming and it’s still creating a buzz today!  I mean the entire show from day one had so many twists, turns, and surprises that it kept you glued to the screen and wanting more…wait….what now…this wasn’t a TV show? You mean to tell me this was real life!?!?

Because of the way the media and television has been portraying this case you would think that a boy did not lose his life and a man did not stand a chance of having his freedom taken away. I’m really not sure if there is anyone else who has capitalized more than the folks behind the cameras.

My wife and I happened to stumble on one channel’s daily coverage of the trial as they called it “The Most Shocking Moments of the Zimmerman Trial” where they recapped some of the pivotal moments of the day. Another show (can’t remember if it was the same channel) had a panel of guest who would quickly fire off their points in a roundtable debate while other guests would interrupt, and the next thing you know everyone is arguing back and forth. It made for great TV, but should it have?

Even the way the media originally crafted this story, later being accused of tampering with the 911 call, “all of a sudden” having pictures of Zimmerman’s wounds, and even going back and forth from showing Trayvon being 12 and Zimmerman’s mug shot to Trayvon giving the middle finger and Zimmerman in a suit, was very manipulative. To some degree we should all feel like puppets.Master with puppet

But, this should be no surprise to us because our media companies are still businesses and in the end it’s about ratings and the almighty dollar. So what does this mean for us, should we not watch at all? I’m not saying that. Because we watched and there was an uproar, this case was at least brought to trial.

What I am saying is that when we take in from these news publications of various sorts, we need to be careful and sober minded with what is said and how it is portrayed. We should remember that though it’s coming through the same medium as some of our favorite forms of entertainment, it’s not entertainment.  So when season 2 of the Trayvon and Zimmerman Show comes out (aka the wrongful death case or civil rights case) we’ll be ready for the circus and see right though it. And please keep the Martin Family in your thoughts and prayers, it’s more real to them than anyone else.

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~Stephen J. Taylor

In Addition to the Tie: What They Need on Father’s Day

fatherFather’s Day, the time of year when corny mugs and tacky tie sales skyrocket. This year go ahead and buy the power drill, or the grill, but add this gift as well, affirmation. Here’s a little secret, though we act all tough and unemotional, men need it too (and I just said that in the manliest way possible…just so yall know). We all know women want and love affirmation, and they typically enjoy the “you are so_______ (fill in the blank with a characteristic)” affirmation. Men on the other hand being more goal and task oriented tend to like the “you are doing a good job” affirmation.

So this Father’s Day tell your dad or a dad you know how well they are doing! Being a father, I think that we as men do a terrible job of doing this for each other. We cannot let the fear of man to man affection and going beneath the surface (though it’ not easy) prevent us from encouraging each other. In this day when fatherhood seems to be dying (especially in my demographic of young black fathers) we gotta stick together and call one another higher.

So this Father’s Day…

Affirm the Father who is involved with his children and assure him that the work he’s putting in will be the biggest blessing his children will know. Encourage him to stay the course by letting him know he’s doing well in his role.

Affirm the Father who has joint custody and has to share time with his kids, but he still sacrifices and does what he can to see them.  Let him know how proud you are that he’s making those sacrifices unlike so many others who shrink at their responsibility.

Affirm the Father with baby mama drama. Tell him that you see his struggle and fight to be a part of his children’s lives and how much you respect his efforts. Tell him his labor is not in vain.

Affirm the Father who has raised his children. Be sure to tell him how much you appreciate the heavy burden and responsibility of raising children he carried, and how he carried it well.

Affirm the Father figure who stepped into the role of someone else to benefit the life of a child. He needs to hear that though he is not a biological parent, the priceless paternal influence he is giving will last a lifetime.

Don’t just let Hallmark speak for you, speak for yourself too! So, I know you have some father’s in mind that you want to express your gratitude and appreciation to, so go do it. Dads this is our day, but we need to get over any hang-ups that might be there and show love to other dad’s too.  There’s not much that can replace a peer or someone who has gone before you in a certain role assuring you of your progress. They need to hear it!

~Stephen J. Taylor

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